The (I'm) Perfect Mom

 "Really, What... and then after a few seconds "Never Mind.." I tell myself as I go through the various posts on the likes of  "10 ways  to be a perfect mom or 10 parenting tips..." and so on....When my first child was born I quit my job to be a stay at home mom..and resumed back after 10 years.I thought replacing  the professional part of me, with the newly acquired motherhood status would be a good idea...

 When I resumed working and connected with my old self, I realized I was so much better and efficient at handling the curveball that motherhood throws at you time and again...Work life balance,in my view is a highly idealistic over rated concept.Both work and life go hand in hand. They are not mutually exclusive.At times when there are professional commitments, its hard to concentrate on family and then there are times when there are family needs,its hard to make commitments at work.. They go side by side...Though I wind up my work by 6 pm, it takes me about an hour(grab some coffee, listen to some music .. some "ME" time...like a still lake after the ripples) to unwind back to my family's whims and fancies.In that one hour,any talk made to me is to deaf ears as my mind slowly unwinds back to domesticity.

I am a perfect mom even when I order takeaway food 😋, get wrong supplies( I once got 4th grade school supplies for my son who was going to 5th grade.No wonder most of the supplies came back with a note from the teacher 😞😞) ,forget important dates,feign interest in my kids stories when my mind is elsewhere..Making mistakes,being imperfect makes me perfect...

I am a perfect mom when I take time out for myself to exercise,eat right,connect with my old friends,work on my professional aspirations,volunteer on causes I am passionate about,watch TV, shed tears while watching movies(ignoring my son's amusement on look mumma is crying jab 😢😢) .

I am a perfect mom to my 2 kids and 2 dogs when motherhood becomes another part of me,not replacing an existing part of me.

Happy Mother's Day to the girl inside us who still aspires to change the world 😇😇

Khatta- Meetha (Savory 'n' Sweet)

Spice Level : 😋😋😋

"Is that Mapro Kokam Crush, I see on the shelf?" , 😍  I asked my husband in disbelief ! He didn't share the same excitement as me on this Alexandrian level of discovery and retorted back with  just a  " Hmm". 😠  

As I held the bottle of Kokam crush in my hands , I felt like I had received some lifetime award for doing the mundane chore of  visiting Indian store weekly, year after year. My mind went back in flash back and 15 years of my life visiting the Indian Store came flashing by.. In the beginning with my husband, then with my infant daughter, then with 2 children in tow and finally now after so many years its just main aur meri Indian Store ki list...Its my idea of "me" time where I stare at the bourbon biscuit thinking "oreo main woh baat kahan"..only to be asked to move aside by some anxious shopper 

 Inspired by my Kokam crush find, next week my husband decided to find ram ladoo..To those of us who have never lived in North India,ram ladoo is a spicy little ball of  savory candy.He tried different Indian stores.Some tried to help while some gave him the "Hmm" look (karma .. ha ha ha 😏😏) . But finally he succeeded..

As I sat drinking the Kokum crush and he relishing the ram ladoo, we connected to our childhood . The days of our childhood when I used to have kokum crush after returning back from school on a hot day and he used to get ram ladoo on his way back from school. 

Both of us looked at each other with a "hmmm" 😋😋