"Really, What... and then after a few seconds "Never Mind.." I tell myself as I go through the various posts on the likes of "10 ways to be a perfect mom or 10 parenting tips..." and so on....When my first child was born I quit my job to be a stay at home mom..and resumed back after 10 years.I thought replacing the professional part of me, with the newly acquired motherhood status would be a good idea...
When I resumed working and connected with my old self, I realized I was so much better and efficient at handling the curveball that motherhood throws at you time and again...Work life balance,in my view is a highly idealistic over rated concept.Both work and life go hand in hand. They are not mutually exclusive.At times when there are professional commitments, its hard to concentrate on family and then there are times when there are family needs,its hard to make commitments at work.. They go side by side...Though I wind up my work by 6 pm, it takes me about an hour(grab some coffee, listen to some music .. some "ME" time...like a still lake after the ripples) to unwind back to my family's whims and fancies.In that one hour,any talk made to me is to deaf ears as my mind slowly unwinds back to domesticity.
I am a perfect mom even when I order takeaway food 😋, get wrong supplies( I once got 4th grade school supplies for my son who was going to 5th grade.No wonder most of the supplies came back with a note from the teacher 😞😞) ,forget important dates,feign interest in my kids stories when my mind is elsewhere..Making mistakes,being imperfect makes me perfect...
I am a perfect mom when I take time out for myself to exercise,eat right,connect with my old friends,work on my professional aspirations,volunteer on causes I am passionate about,watch TV, shed tears while watching movies(ignoring my son's amusement on look mumma is crying jab 😢😢) .
I am a perfect mom to my 2 kids and 2 dogs when motherhood becomes another part of me,not replacing an existing part of me.
Happy Mother's Day to the girl inside us who still aspires to change the world 😇😇
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